Who doesn't want love? Truth is, love is the one thing many people desire to obtain the most, especially women. We want so badly to find a guy, get married, and have a few babies that we ignore the red flags and disregard our intuition too often while dating. Using your discernment is one of the most important things you can do as a woman who is "on the market" and dating. This way you avoid falling head over heels for someone toxic and emotionally unavailable. A wise woman knows that not every man is deserving of her time and energy. By paying attention and tuning in to how your spirit responds when it is around a specific man, you can literally save yourself from experiencing yet another heartbreak on your quest to find love. So what is it exactly you should be looking out for? Below are some examples of men to avoid as well as those worthy of you investing your precious time getting to know. Wise Up queen!
the fun guy –
He is filled with charisma and has a great sense of humor, HOWEVER, this guy is not ready to grow up. You can usually find him always playing. There is no “off switch”. He’ll choose his friends, the club, his car, and any other frivolous thing over taking care of responsibility. He is always in the club or at an event in the newest gear or in front of the xbox, but his bills are usually behind and piling up. This guy loves to be on the scene and he may even be the club promoter you bought your tickets from. He’s no doubt a good time but that is about all he is good for. This is also the guy that you’re always asking “what are we?” and “where do I stand?”. You’ll ask about commitment or marriage and he’ll change the subject with a kiss, sex, gifts, or petty arguments – but never give you what you really need. The dude isn’t afraid of commitment he’s just not ready. And that’s perfectly OK, just not OK for you.
the bag man –
As women we always believe we can help fix people, especially a man. We are wired to want to improve everything around us. The bag man is a man that comes with a lot of baggage and past hurt and doesn’t want to be improved. His anger is his friend. The bag man is a live wire, and is proud of it. A hot temper and/or “no feelings” is a badge of honor for him. He’s distant and often disrespectful. Don’t brush off the signs or try to convince yourself that he’s not what he is. As much as you want to fix this guy ladies, RUN! Run fast. Broken people break people. The bag man won’t feel bad about hurting you since he has been hurt so much in the past. If you want to take it there, you can call him a sociopath who always blames others for why he is not where he wants to be in life. His mommy and daddy issues will compel him to pull you away from the people closest to you. Don’t give him the satisfaction of leaving you in pieces.
the healer –
This man is working on himself. Women can spot a healing man by his hunger to be a better man, his willingness to have feelings, and his ability to acknowledge yours. The healing man is open to learning new ways to grow, share, and undo his inner damage. He’s usually compassionate to your struggle and forgiving of your flaws because he’s accepted his own. The healing man can help you heal too, and sometimes he needs to heal on his own. Observe where he is and, if you’re willing, meet him there. Your love can certainly elevate him if he’s ready to allow it. Never force yourself into the space of the healing man (or any man). Forcefulness can send him backward or even push him away altogether. Forcefulness is also going against the feminine flow. Remember that what’s for you – is for you
the prince –
The Prince is getting his life together. He’s building. His inner demons have been defeated or he’s figured out how to make them bend to his will. This man is focused, determined, and driven to be a great man. The Prince is often sociable, forward thinking, and putting pieces in place to provide The Prince is positioning himself. He’s responsible and holds himself accountable for any damage he causes. He’s making mistakes, all men will, and he’s owning up to them. This man is working to prove himself to himself, and to the woman he’s preparing for. The Prince is a pleasure to watch and his growth energy is contagious.
the king –
A King is as a King does. You’ll know a king when you meet him because he’s serious. His nature is obvious, and while he can laugh, joke, and enjoy himself – that’s not his main goal in life. His main goal is security. The King protects and provides for those he’s responsible for. The King is focused and stable. His stability creates security for you. He wants you to have what you want and will make sure he can provide, but he will never let your wants trump your needs. Give thanks for the Kings. This man is a father, a leader, a friend, and confidant. He may not have all the time in the world because his time is dedicated to securing the kingdom. Kings tend to be quiet because they are thinking men.
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